One of my favorite Pages I have ever read on identity and labels on the self
This is a conversation with a young man in a monastery trying to become a monk and a monk (Fr. Alypius) that already lives there.
Fr. Alypius- "You say you seek God, but a ray of light doesn't seek the sun; it's coming from the sun. You are a branch on the vine of God. A branch doesn't seek the vine; it's already part of the vine. A wave doesn't look for the ocean; it's already full of the ocean. Because you don't know that who you are is one with God, you believe all these labels about yourself: I'm a sinner, I'm a saint, I'm a wretch, I'm a worm and no man, I'm a monk, I'm a nurse. These are all labels, clothing. They serve a purpose, but they are not who you are. To the extent that you believe these labels, you believe a lie, and you add anguish upon anguish. It's what most of us do for most of our lives. In a secular world we call it our career. In monastic terms, we call it our vocation...You already are silent. I understand how there is a lot of noise and chaos swirling around. That's true of us all. But you, you are silence. You are the silence that is aware of the chaos. You are the silence that sees the chaos...silence and contemplation are concerned with what is deeper than thinking. Silence is always present." - Martin Laird Epilogue in Into the Silent Land